God I hate having to make this post for what’s basically a third time but HEY everyone, I need some urgent help.
I have a broken molar, and I need a root canal and filling. I have until October 12th, 2021 to get the full amount of money needed. I have 1k in savings (previously $1700, but life has thrown bills at me and it’s been dropped down again to only 1k. I’m not happy about this either).
The full bill is $2837.00 CAD. No I cannot travel to go get this done. No I will not “just get it pulled”. Do not offer me advice on this post, please and thank you.
I’ve been in a lot of pain because of this tooth and I FINALLY have found a place to get it done that does full sedation (yes, I need it. Yes, I’ve tried moderate sedation. No, it did not work) that isn’t going to cost me nearly 7k.
Here’s my estimate for proof that this isn’t a scam.
Please please please help if you can. I do digital art commissions if you want, and I’ll reblog this with my p*ypal for donations. I’m really tired of this pain in my mouth, and I absolutely need to get it fixed soon.
Hey heads up, I only have 11 days left to reach the amount I need. I’m starting to feel a bit panicked, since I’m still over $1000 away from reaching my goal. Please, please donate if you can. Literally anything helps, even a dollar.
10 days left!
$1779/2837
9 days left!
$1984/2837
8 days left!
$2084/2837
7 days left! I didn’t receive any donations yesterday so there’s no update so far.
7 days left!
$2108/2837
6 days left! I’m so close y'all please keep it up!
I hate to do this, but my job has had me face some of the worse harassment, queerphobia, misogyny, and transphobia I’ve faced in my life! The upper administration refuses to do anything other than “Talk with people about it.” I’m hoping to find a better job quickly before I quit this one, but if it gets too severe, I will have to quit for my own safety. (Those who know me will know I had a customer threaten me and wait for me outside after closing, to list a clear example.) Consider supporting me if/when the worst comes to worst!
AROMANTIC DATING ADVICE TIME!! Hello my fellow aromantics. Today i wanted to talk about aromantic dating, something not often discussed. This video is for ar...
Hi so uuuh video on aromantic experiences in the dating world (specifically allosexual aro experiences) from whomst I believe is a pretty big youtuber! Especially enjoyed seeing a very cutesy aro person talk openly about sex like @mainstream society try call us either ‘babyish’ or ‘cold’ after this. I don’t 100% agree with everything she says but it be like that sometimes and she does a good job of expressing that what she’s saying is just her personal opinions.
Guys you can stop reblogging this. The video is private because the person in it no longer identifies as aromantic or really uses the channel. I’ll probably delete the op soon just wanted to explain why
back when I identified as ace i used the SAM and was asexual aromantic even tho I was perioriented and then I stopped using the SAM and was just aromantic even tho I wasn’t explicitly Not asexual so I was still kind of perioriented and now I’m gay and aromantic but I wouldn’t say I use the SAM even tho I’m definitely not asexual and therefore ig varioriented because
a) ‘gay’ doesn’t have or imply a -romantic/-sexual suffix and b) I still feel ‘just’ aromantic the same way I did when that was my only orientation label and c) I don’t feel like I’m exclusively homosexual and not homoromantic (and I feel those are kind of clunky unnatural terms anyway *personally*). like I’m not romantically attracted to anyone, hence like, using the term aro. But I don’t feel that being ‘fully’ gay and being aromantic are contradictory labels. I feel that I’m a gay person who happens to be aromantic (and likewise an aromantic person who happens to be gay).
like, ok, hear me out, but if this concept wasn’t so beloved by exclus trying to water down how significant our identities are, and if I could begin to articulate what I mean by this in a way that wouldn’t get misconstrued, I could kiiind of get behind aspec labels as ‘modifiers’ or whatever.
Not in the sense that we have ‘real’ orientations that aromanticism is just hiding, just in the sense that my aromanticism is not a lack of anything, and especially it’s not a chunk taken out of my other identities. My aro-ness changes how I see and approach romantically coded social shit, and effects my decisions surrounding it, rather than giving me a black hole in my brain where I might otherwise have opinions on it. I can choose not to enter romantic relationships due to it, or not to pursue other types of affection and social support systems that are normally associated with romance, but I’m not inherently cut off from them.
I’m not trying to come up with a new model for what aromanticism *is* by the way, just feeling stuff out. I also don’t, like, actually want us to start using the term ‘modifier’. (As well as it being misleading I am generally pro us not needing more Terms). This obviously doesn’t describe every aro, and is very different from how I myself viewed my aromanticism even a couple years ago.
(Some of this is because I’ve become much more comfortable with a lot of things post coming out to myself as a trans man, and while I still have a lot of firm boundaries I have had to figure out what aromanticism means for me in the absence of significant romance repulsion, which used to be a weighty part of my identity. Like, what *is* aromanticism if not defined by personal aversions? How do we explain the aromantic experience beyond the technical qualification of ‘lack of romantic attraction’ without just saying ‘some aros x some aros don’t and aros have differing comfort levels with y’, because that’s true of everyone and doesn’t mean anything at all.)
this is isn't an ask it's a compliment i just want to say i love ur url and ur banner how does it feel to be so right and have such a huge brain
thank u anon! that said at first I thought this was sent to my main blog where my banner is a quote from my friend which misidentifies han solo as a twink and i had QUESTIONS for you
Good morning, Maya has expanded on this a bit in terms of aroace characters and rep as a whole, and it explains some great points in the topic of aroace Peridot through it as well:
“Even if a bit of rep isnt great, would’ve benefitted from an aspec person in the room earlier, is mainly conveyed through metaphor, you latch on to what you can get.”
Friendly reminder that the split attraction model (sam) is for aspecs and aspecs only. If you’re not aspec you cannot use it.
this is blatantly untrue. i don’t remember when exactly the term “split-attraction model” became widely used, but people have split their sexual and romantic attraction for various reasons since well before aspec discourse became a huge thing, and the aspec community has never, as a whole, “forced” the SAM on anyone. stop spreading misinfo y'all
I also wanna direct op towards this wikipedia article on Karl Heinrich Ulrichs’ classification of sex types, coined in the 1860s. You’ll notice that he defines many different ways of having a sexuality, including the terms ‘conjunctive’ and ‘disjunctive’, which essentially refer to types of perioriented (matching attractions) and varioriented (mismatching attractions) queer people.
All that to say, the queer community as a whole has been conscious of more complicated orientations for a long long time. Aspecs don’t own the concept of split attraction, even if we popularised one of the most well known models at the moment. Nor should we let non-aspecs talk shit about us due to some mistaken belief that only we could come up with something that they see as frivolous and convoluted. Using language like this is part of the shared history of the queer community, whether any of us like that or not.
